I had no plan of posting here due to lack of topics to discuss but 5 minutes ago, I was on Facebook and I saw this:

“Who’s wrong: Girl or Boy?”

Now, I now that the boys were just staring at the girl but the way they did so made me irritated and what made me mad were the people who commented on the post.

Only a few people had commented it’s the boys. A higher number said both. The vast majority said girls.

And why did they say so? It was because “she was wearing a very short dress and if she doesn’t want to be disrespected, she should cover up”.

A person had commented that not all girls who wear dresses/skirts want to be treated like that and that there are just people who are green-minded (applause to you); but then these other people, moth male and female, replied to her comment that “that’s just what boys are; if you want to be respected you should wear decent clothes”.

That was an actual excuse why boys shouldn’t be blamed; it is because it’s their nature to ogle at girls that they find attractive.

This is what you call rape culture. You blame the victim of what happened instead of accusing the suspect for doing a horrendous crime.

Now, the worst part of rape culture is not holding the victim liable but the protection for the predator.

School policies about girls wearing clothes that are not even prohibited being sent home to change outfits by administrators because it might distract boys? Rape Culture.

People saying that a person could not be raped by their spouse because they are married? Rape Culture.

This is the kind of mentality people that needs to stop. A lot of victims of rape need support more than anything else because of the trauma they went through. They do not need negative comments, eye rolls and even disregard that they don’t even deserve.

To mysogynistic boys who call themselves men:

Don’t use the phrase “men will be men” to cover up your wrongdoings because it will never work.

Don’t diss someone if they didn’t like what you said. “I want to slap that ass!” and “Why don’t you give me a kiss?” are so much different from “Go out there and show what you’re made of”, “Yaaass, queen” and “Giiirl, slaaay”. These are words encouragement to make women feel comfortable whilst yours are phrases of objectification.

Don’t ever blame the woman for being so overreacting when you touch them in places they don’t want anything to be in contact with without asking and don’t force a woman to have sex with you, no matter how vulnerable she seemed. No means no and rape is rape unless consent is given.

To women out there who went through this:

Don’t blame yourself because you did nothing wrong. Ignore those who throw hurtful comments at you because they never know what you have gone through. You are strong and I know you’ll be able to put this all behind you and leave it in the past.

You may not think of it, but you’re still beautiful and you still have so many things you can get in life. Keep in mind that there are so many people out there who are willing to listen to you.

To everyone else:

Yes, even you men. Male-to-male sexual violence exists and, although quite impossible but is very there, female-to-male rape still occur so everyone is vulnerable to these horrible acts.

Keep safe. You might not know who you can trust. Nothing is secure in this world anymore.